When a relationship ends, for whatever reason, the man will move on first. Nine times out of 10 this is what happens (I'm not quoting any actual study for this statistic). And why is that? One simple reason: women are stupid. Or, more specifically, the next woman in line is stupid. You all know who this is; the woman who rushes in and replaces you.
So, next time a relationship ends and you feel used/manipulated/taken advantage of/(insert something else here) and you come away feeling stupid, don't. Rather, take a moment and think about it: you didn't know what you know now but that woman next in line - what the hell is she thinking? You're not the real moron in all of this - the next in line is.
Having trouble understanding what I'm saying? I'll use the case of Sandra Bullock/Jesse James/Kat von D to illustrate my point. Jesse James, already divorced with two kids, marries, has a baby with and divorces a porn star. Probably not the best choices - a bit of a bad boy. Enter Sandra Bullock - never married, America's sweetheart and, apparently, totally naive. Gosh, turns out James cheats on his new wife with not one but several women. Shame on him. Bullock, humiliated, divorces him and leaves town. Who can blame her? How dumb does she feel? She shouldn't worry because enter from stage left Kat von D. The next in line. The ultimate moron who gets engaged to him and believes his bull shit line of "2010 was the best year ever!" Sandra Bullock can lay her head down every night knowing that she is, without a doubt, not the dumbest woman in the world. In her world, that title goes to Kat von D.
The next in line walks into a disaster zone probably thinking she can fix everything and save the day without the sense to put on a hard hat or safety gloves. Even if the man is standing there holding the match and the gas can, the next in line believes the good old standby of "It wasn't me, it was her. I did everything I could to save the..." Although it is a complete disaster zone and there doesn't seem to be any insurance to help with repairs, the next in line moves in and stands by her man blindly waiting for the clean up crew who will never come.
We all know these women: the ones who live with men who remain stubbornly married to their wives, the ones who lend money to their men based on empty promises of repayment, and the ones who believe that the cheaters will never do anything like that to them...
So when your relationship ends you should give thanks to those women entering from stage left for making you look a little less stupid.
How to recover? Buy a great pair of boots, go to brunch, sue his sociopathic ass off and wait... for your turn to be the next in line.
