From a logical point of view, I stop and think: "This is someone I haven't had any type of relationship with or even seen in about 27 years so why exactly do I need to know what is going on in his life?" Like seriously. This is dumb. From the emotional point of view I cry out: "WHY ME????"
I mean... let's face it. Rejection is rejection. Having someone "unfriend" you is just cyber talk for getting dumped. No one wants to be dumped... even if it is by someone you haven't had a conversation with in 25 or so years. But it's just so cold. No reason given. No explanation. Just like a real-live dumping, the dumpee is left wondering: "Was it something I posted? Did he just grow tired of having me on his list of 300 plus friends? Did I not fit in with those 300 other people? Did he not like the one and only comment I ever made on a photo he posted in the five years that we had been 'friends'? Was it a mistake? An inadvertent click of the button? Or was it him and not me?"
What is the etiquette for this? Do I message him? Do I cyberstalk him to get my answer? Do I track him down in real life and demand an explanation? Or do I just walk away with my head held high and hope no one noticed? Is it too vindictive to "block" him? Should I track down all the other people we knew in primary school and "friend" them before he does? What do I do??????
Surely we should develop some sort of "code" for this and bring back the humaneness to being dumped. Rather than just a click of the button to "unfriend" someone, I suggest that we have options to click on such as:
- We no longer share the same values.
- I don't want any reminders of my childhood.
- You're much too good looking for me now.
- My spouse is jealous of your existence on Facebook.
- My life is too busy right now but I hope to "friend" you later.
- It's not you, it's me.
- Who the hell are you?
